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From The Home Front - by Lilla

 
Slow down and enjoy life. It's not only the scenery you miss by going too fast -- you also miss the sense of where you are going and why." -- Eddie Cantor

From The Home Front - November 2006

Troops Really Don't Want To Go To Iraq?

November 29th 2006 14:47
The following is not my work. It was written by a friend of mine from another blog group his screen name is Corbin_Dallas. I should have asked if he wanted his real name used so Corbin if you are around and you want to introduce yourself please do so.

Not satisfied with John Kerry’s simply calling our brave soldiers dumb and lazy Charlie Rangel drove the Democrat point home more directly........

"I want to make it abundantly clear: if there’s anyone who believes that these youngsters want to fight, as the Pentagon and some generals have said, you can just forget about it. No young, bright individual wants to fight just because of a bonus and just because of educational benefits. And most all of them come from communities of very, very high unemployment. If a young fella has an option of having a decent career or joining the army to fight in Iraq, you can bet your life that he would not be in Iraq." Charlie Rangel 15th District Congress



Of course Ol' Charlie was making this point when pitching his new draft proposal.....

You remember the "Draft Issue" during the election???? The draft Democrats threatened would result from a Bush re-election??? Remember that when your sons and daughters begin getting their letters.........

his comment instead highlights the fact that Democrats just think poorly of our brave men and women in uniform........

They see them as poor, ignorant children being manipulated by a scheming system. Nevermind such a stereotype has been thoroughly debunked, it goes to show how patronizing Democrats are to the military.

Stereotype Debunked

Of course, this isn’t anything new for Democrats, is it??? For years they’ve publicly professed their dislike and lack of respect for our troops........from accusing fellow soldiers of committing war crimes (John Kerry) to loathing the military (Bill Clinton).


Only those who hate the military can advocate a draft today.........America has the smartest and best-trained military the world has ever seen because it is composed of people who want to be there, who voluntarily made a commitment to risk their lives defending their country.

To drag youngsters into it against their will is not only an amazing waste of money (train them for two years then they're gone) but amazingly counter-productive..........it destroys cohesion and morale. Probably that's what Rangel wants to achieve. It hasn't dawned on him that the draft will make young voters hate Democrats........


With friends like the Democrats, who needs enemies…

Now for a response from a military wife. This is written by my friend Jen. Her husband spent a tour of duty in the Iraq with the National Guard and as I write this and add her words she is packing to move her family as her husband has made the choice to go active duty.

Ugh - send both of them over there to do convoy security - right out in the open. I personally don't want to see a draft and have guys who don't give a shit and don't want to be there be next to my husband in a war and supposedly having his back.

Oh and bonus? Sorry, I don't recall ever seeing a bonus in the 7 years Paul has been in plus he just added another 3 to that and no bonus there either. Whatever happened to people realizing the pride that our soldiers have to keep the freedom for this country and defend our flag? I'm married to a guy who has more experience than his new active duty fire fighting unit because he's been overseas and who is willing to go back and do it again to make sure these guys come home safe. There are no extra incentives if he does that. Yeah we get the full time AD pay and benefits now but compared to his civilian counterparts it's about 30% less. Does that change things? Nope. It's called patriotism - I wish more people still had it. Particularly those in gov't positions like Congress and Senators.


Now for my take:
My husband is 18 months from retirement. He spent four years regular Army and due to family obigation he got out and took his young family home to his childhood home. Within a year or going home he found the closest National Guard unit and signed up.
When we married I made him promise that if it ever seemed like he might end up in a combat situation he would get out. That is the only promise my husband has ever broken to me. Granted it was a mutual decision between the two of us. Shortly after 911 he wanted to go active duty. It took all I had to convince him that was a bad idea. When all was said and done, I knew I had to give him the go ahead to do what he needed to do because holding him to a that promise would have destroyed the man the I knew and loved.
When my husband left for Iraq it was by choice to the degree that he waited for his current enlistment to run out and then walked into a recruiters office refusing to sign the paperwork until he was guaranteed a place in a unit that was on alert. He was going to Iraq no matter what he had to do.
When he left in October of 2004 he left a steady, good paying job. Only upon his return did he find himself out of work. As for bonuses, the last bonus my husband had was in 2002 when he extended if I recall correctly. He knew he was not eligible for a bonus the last time he signed the dotted line and his GI bill has been used in the first years of our marriage. He took a cut in pay and his family took a cut in health care benefits as what we had from his civilian job was and is tremendously better.
My husband just as Jen's husband Paul are soldiers. They made their own choices, they serve their country with pride and honor and they made the choice to serve without thought of bonuses, education benefits or income.
Nobody "wants" to go into combat, nobody "wants" to die but those who make the choice more often than not make the choice beyond unemployment, bonuses or education benefits. They make because they believe in something that goes beyond what they want.
These soldiers hate war but they love freedom more.

I advice the likes or Mr. Rangel and Mr. Kerry who obviously have never taken the time to talk to the troops, get to know them or even give them much thought beyond their own political agenda to spend a little time with our troops and find out how they really feel. If you don't want to do that then do us all a favor and quit talking about things that you really know nothing about.
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Speak For Yourself

November 28th 2006 03:43
I have something that is seriously nagging at me and after I get permission from certain people I will post about it tommorow but in the meantime here is the basis of that irritation.

SPEAK FOR YOURSELF! Military members and their families are sick to death of everyone from DC to the milk man telling everyone where we stand, how we feel and what we think.

My husband spent a year in a combat zone, he has earned the right to speak for himself. I spent a year this side of that combat zone and I won't tolerate the likes of Cindy Sheehan or anyone else speaking for me.

Don't tell me that your what you say is the feeling or opinion of the troops unless you have a direct quote from them. These men and woman have put their lives on the line so you have the right to speak your own mind, don't attempt to speak their as well.

If one more Cindy Sheehan comes out of the woodwork and says she is speaking for military families I swear I am going to get a bull horn and stand on the Capital steps in order to give my own opinion instead of having a mother who abandoned her child assume she has a clue how I feel or think about anything. Sorry folks anyone who teams up with Jane Commie does NOT nor will EVER speak for me.

If you truly appreciate your freedom of speech then respect those that have put thier lives on the line to ensure that you continue to have said freedom and let them speak for themselves.

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Hindsight

November 24th 2006 17:29
They say hindsight is 20/20 if that is the case then I have the best eyesight in the world at this point.
Talking with a friend today I told her that she needed to make a point of finishing school and having options for herself even if she is married to a service member that makes a good living. To her benefit he is 100% behind her getting her education. I realized while speaking with her that the biggest mistake I made during my husband's deployment was I was busy trying to take care of everyone but myself. I kept myself insanely busy to the point that I simply could not go anymore.
For a year, I put myself and much of my identity aside and became nothing more than the wife of a deployed soldier. I was the go to person when someone needed anything done and there was always something, I was the person that people called when they wanted information or simply because they were having a bad day. Very seldom would I turn and ask someone else for a bit of support for myself. I was the positive attitude person who was falling to pieces bit by bit inside. I did have a few people I could talk with but I didn't want anyone to worry so I seldom actually allowed much of what I was feeling out in the open.
Looking back, I can see why I went to pieces after my husband came home. In many ways, I had lost myself, I had also forgotten to take care of myself. In many ways it was easier to take care of other than to take five minutes and admit I was tired or afraid and it came back to bite me at a time that I really needed the strength so many kept telling me that I had.
I can't emphasize enough to those who are left behind. yes, focus on your loved one but remember that your loved one also wants you to take care of yourself as well.
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Happy Thanksgiving

November 23rd 2006 14:03
As I sit here today my husband is out in the woods hunting and I am getting everything together for dinner. We missed Thanksgiving together last year by a couple of weeks which makes this year so much more important to me.
I am thankful for some many things today that if I start listing them all there won't be a dinner on the table tonight.
Mostly, I am grateful for the people in our lives. We are blessed with a wonderful extended family that we would be lost without. For all that you have done and been to us. Thank you


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Worth Seeing

November 21st 2006 16:02
While I am sure there is a way to imbed video's here, I am not that skilled. Here are a couple that I think are very much worth seeing.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=udY42ApRR-I


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Little Things

November 20th 2006 03:47
It's funny how life changes without notice. I have never been one to get overly excited about the holidays but this year, I am actually looking forward to them.
No we don't have any huge plans and in fact my request for the holidays was one thing: I want to stay close to home.
We tend to travel for the holidays and while my husband seems to thrive back in his old home, I am always waiting to return to my own home


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Some Christmas Day

November 16th 2006 15:53
I was busy that day as I rushed through the stores
I was late for a party as I searched for my cell phone
When I bumped into a small boy standing near a store window


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The American Flag

November 15th 2006 12:42
May The Flags Of Our Fathers Always Carry On


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ARE YOU IN THE TOP 2% OF INTELLIGENT PEOPLE IN THE WORLD?

SOLVE THE RIDDLE AND FIND OUT.

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My Husband's Favorite Holiday

November 14th 2006 22:19
Today's post is just a bit of happy stuff. November 15 in Michigan is opening day of gun season for deer. Carl was born and raised in an area where venison was a main staple as a meal. While most people eat more beef or chicken, his family ate venison.
He was raised in the woods and raised to hunt his own food and for him November 15 is a national holiday. It is the one day a year he takes off on purpose for work and the one day a year I don't ask for or expect any time from him...though often I end up feeding a bunch of hunters as they all tell the one that got away stories.
Tommorow will be the first time since 2003 that Carl has been home for Opening Day, he is behaving like a six year old on Christmas Eve. While holidays and birthdays are a huge thing to me this year because he is home, for Carl tommorow is what he has waited for since the day he came home


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What Is A Hero

November 13th 2006 05:03
There is a line in a Keni Thomas song that goes something like "a hero is a scared man that doesn't walk away". I have always loved that line because it was the first description of a hero that ever made sense.
I am not one to consider sports or movies stars heros and goodness knows I don't want my kid using 99.999999% of them as a role model, I pray that as her parents my husband and I will be her role models.
It's interesting how service members define heroes. Most never see themselves as heroes and often belittle their own contribution because in some way in their minds it does not seem to be enough


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Veterans Day

November 11th 2006 15:36
"I have learned from them that when freedom anywhere is threatened freedom everywhere is in danger. I know that the best at being Free, may well be the toughest opponents of those who fight for that freedom. I have learned that winning every battle can still leave you needing something that you will not find if you are looking for it in other people. I being a Proud US Army Veteran and former Platoon Sergeant know from what I was taught by outstanding men is that all give some, some give all, and everyone loses. Courage is manifested in what we do with that loss and greatness is achieved in the pomp and rigor of knowing that we can never forget." These are the words of Dan Doyle an Army Veteran and a man that I call my friend.
Veterans Day is different for me this year. I have always observed the date, I have always honored those who have served but I am not sure I have ever felt it as deeply as I have the past few years, this is my husband's first Veterans Day since returning home from Iraq. At this time last year, I was waiting for some clue of his return date to home.
I tried to convince Carl to go to one of the local ceremonies today and he would have nothing of it. He is rather uncomfortable with the attention given to him since his return. He does not know how to handle the handshakes and the thank you's, he is even less comfortable when someone feels the need to start talking politics. Most forget that most soldiers take the attitude of "I work for the President, no matter who that may be or his political affiliation, I still have a job to do and I will do it to the best of my ability


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Marriage After Deployment Part II

November 10th 2006 13:45
To continue my post from yesterday:

As I said we spent a week with my husband's dad and step-mother (actually it was 9 days). Do keep in mind, I adore my father in law and while he is what one might call an odd bird, he is a good man who had seen his own share of hell during the year my husband was gone. He never said much to Carl or even me while Carl was in Iraq as he didn't want to put any additional worry on either of us but during that week a great deal had come out. Some concerns were clarified for both Carl and I and in the end a great deal of it had made me sad because I realized this man had been through a great deal of emotional pain during that year


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Marriage After Deployment

November 9th 2006 15:37
Someone recently told me that the marriages that have the hardest time readjusting to normal life after a deployment are the couples that were really close before the deployment.
When Carl (my husband) returned home, I remember being scared to death. " What if I am too fat, what if the age that is really starting to show on my face disgusts him, what if he still doesn't want me? What happens if he discovers he got over loving me while he was gone? What if I don't still love him?" All of those questions and more ran through my mind. I wanted him home and safe more than anything but I was terrified at the prospect of actually having him back. The guilt that I felt over this was incredible but I could not stop the "what if's".
I had some expectations of his return but I didn't feel they were very high. Many had the concept that life would instantly go back to normal. I'm a realist; I had no such fantasies. many were planning on second honeymoons and so forth. I also knew better than that but I did have a few expectations


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Marriage During A Deployment

November 8th 2006 14:55
Marriage always has challenges, any relationship does, but toss a year or more apart while one is in constant danger and the other lives in constant fear of a knock on the door and it gets much, much worse.
When my husband left for Iraq it was a bit less than two months away from our eighth anniversary. We had always been the golden couple, we had the marriage that others would say "I want a marriage like yours". I have to admit, I was a bit arrogant about the whole thing because I had watched so many people take marriage much too lightly. "It takes work and committment on both sides." I would tell them as if we had a corner on that market.
To be honest, I can still be arrogant about this because I still see people throw away marriages because they are bored and often not willing to do much to change it that. Marriage does take work and it takes committment on both side to make it work and work well


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The Art of Debate [Squared]

November 8th 2006 03:03
Today I had a memory... a flashback to a time when in northern India near Dehli, stuck in the back of the weirdest looking old car you have ever seen. We were bailed up at a railway crossing that was closed for passing trains.

The trains had been passing for three hours


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Election Day

November 7th 2006 13:41
I have to admit I am happy that it's Election Day for all the wrong reasons. I will be glad to have the "he said, she said and he did, she did" ad's off of my TV. Maybe I am just paying more attention this year but it seems as if the bashing the other candidate contest has only gotten worse as the years go on.
Of course while most are steering far away from anything involving Iraq or Afghanistan we all know it is weighing heavily on the mind of everyone from the candidates to the voters. It comes up here and there, though not often. Yet, most campaigns hit every Veteran's group they can and get thier picture with returning troops whenever possible. This makes me even crazier than the negative ad's. I feel as if the troops are being used as nothing more than a political agenda. Does anyone ever really talk to them? Does anyone really ask them how they feel about the things going on in their world? It seems to me that everyone is speaking for them but nobody has bothered to ask them about much of anything.
I'm dreading the presidential elections as I have little doubt they will be even worse and the use of the troops as election leverage will once again be done without thought, shame or remorse


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A Philosophical Tale... of Hegel

November 7th 2006 04:33
A philosophical tale …
Of Hegel…penned,
...for a philosophical friend


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Language...

November 7th 2006 04:09
Recently, I finished writing a book. A book about the language of the birds. Omenical in nature it can be used to foretell certain conditions for the one who can read it. A long forgotten art called Augury. Anyway, during my research on this book I discovered that the word was not first... silence was ...and the word divided the silence and conquered it, though not able to completely express nor capture it, again....

*Thoughts


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The Wisdom of Passing On Knowledge...

November 6th 2006 23:59
Thank God I've done my time wandering around out there in the real world, on the edge, pushing the envelop and what have you. All I know is that from Guru's on Everest to The Dead Sea, the gathering stage of my life is finished. Time to put it all together and do something with it. How do I know this? Well I had my car read by a car reader. She said the spongy sagging roof lining was evidence that I had retained too much knowledge and must start to teach - pass it on - or I would end up with one of those strange old people's diseases in 20 or 30 years time! What a prospect to look forward to. I've gone straight from puberty to pre-menopausal in one heartbeat! You know it's true, inside every old person there is a young person wondering what the hell happened!

That’s probably overkill, I'm not that old ....and NO a lady does not tell...
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Holidays And Military Families

November 6th 2006 02:43
As I sit here this November, I once again feel a chill in my bones. November is a tough month because it was the first month in 2004 that I spent without my husband. I was lucky that year, he was still in the states for Thanksgiving and I was able to make the 10 hour drive to Fort Dix, NJ from Michigan and spend the holiday with him.
2005 was a bit different. I felt very seperated from everything in my life and even though I had wonderful family support, I was beginning to feel as if I was imposing on them so it didn't occur to me that I might spend the holidays with them. Before anyone gets upset with my family, this was not their fault but my own craziness that comes from spending a year worrying and feeling alone; I would have been more than welcome with them and I would have realized that if I had been rational at the time.
While I was one of the lucky ones to have family and extended family that would have never allowed me to spend the holiday alone there are many military spouses who don't have the same support I had, they don't have a place to go for the holidays and their family is far away. Money is usually tight for most of them and pride will prevent them from saying anything to anyone


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1st Prize for 60's get-up!

November 6th 2006 00:16
I didn't end up going as either Janis Joplin or Cher.

I gave the Cher wig to my Husband and went as myself in the end - which was probably what Janis would've wanted anyway - ...ordinary hippy with groovy clothes, shades, big metal Peace-symbol and head band! I gave the jjoint to my husband too and together with a red head band he looked like something out of a Cheech and Chong movie


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Who Is This Soldier's Wife??

November 4th 2006 04:49
I thought I would take a few minutes this evening and introduce myself a bit.
I married my husband Carl, Christmas Day of 1996. On that day, I believed that life could only get better. We didn't have much and in truth if you count material or money; we still don't. Life for the most part has only gotten better.
Like the rest of the world, September 11 changed us and our lives. From that day forth, I had two military duffle bags that sat packed and ready to go at a moments notice. Those bags were moved on October 23, 2004 when my husband reported to his armory in order to prepare to leave on October 31, 2004. He left the house on the 23rd not to return until his leave Labor Day weekend of 2005. His unit returned home December 8, 2005 with every single soldier that had left. Some had come home earlier for health issues but all in all we were blessed that all did come home of their own volition


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As a military spouse one of the toughest things to do is keep everything running smoothly at home while trying to keep what little sanity you have left in tact.
Between work, trying to raise kids, pay the bills and keep your spouse supplied with whatever it is they might need at the time it takes a huge toll on the person left behind to hold life together. Depression among military spouses and children is very common and all to often not addressed. Make sure your children have an outlet with someone they can trust and if you are noticing changes in behavior that last for more than a couple of weeks it is a good idea to seek professional help.
More often than not the last person a military spouse takes care of is themselves: count on it, you are going to be overwhelmed. There is nothing wrong with asking for or seeking help


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Making Memories For Your Soldier

November 2nd 2006 15:48
While my husband was in Iraq, I heard about a really great program put on by the Salvation Army. it was called Operation Pillow Talk. The gist of the program was this:
Take pillows of any size and decorate them. Some used pillow cases, I didn't because it never occured to me that he would actually use the pillow and even permanant marker fade with washings.
The pillow doesn't have to be fancy and you don't have to have an event to do this. Use the smaller pillows you can buy at the craft store or a full size pillow, it really doesn't matter


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Kerry: A Day Late And A Dollar Short

November 2nd 2006 07:41
Senator Kerry has finally apologized to the troops and their families for his so called joke about President Bush.
For many troops and their families this is a day late and a dollar short. Kerry's apologies only came after an influx of criticism from Republican's. Since when did sticking your foot in your mouth become a political issue?
Had Kerry truly been sorry, then he should have apologized immediately without all of the political pressure beforehand


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